My Kid Will Make It

The spring thaw, don’t you just love it; waiting for the crocuses to come up and the grass to turn green. For over fifty years this was the time of year that I lived for. The boys of summer, 162 games in 180 days, what fun? I am not a participant any longer just a spectator. Every summer though from the time I was eight years old until I was thirty five that’s what I did, I played baseball. As a kid the dream was to become a professional baseball player and do it for a living. I am sure that kids today have those same dreams and can see themselves hitting the homerun that wins the World Series or pitching a no-hitter. It was such a fantasy fest and we all did fantasize, but alas none of us made it. We played in and out of uniform, organized and pick up, honed our skills, took batting practice and we all thought we were so darn good, but not good enough. There were some guys in the town that I lived in that were so good that we figured we would be watching them someday playing for the Yankees. Not so.

I started doing the math many years ago and finally worked out the numbers. There are about three thousand professional baseball players in the United States and that includes minor league teams. I am not including Japan or other countries that play in the World Baseball Classic every four years. There are eight billion people living on the planet. The chances are greater that a kid will be hit by lightning than becoming a professional baseball player. Professional baseball players are the cream, cream, cream of the crop and have certain physical abilities that are innate to them and only them. When scouts talk about a five tool player they refer to a player’s ability to run with speed, has a strong throwing arm, can hit for average and hit with power, and can field their position well. These are all God given abilities that improve with practice but really it’s all about natural talent.

I am not too concerned about teenagers understanding those numbers, I think they do, but I don’t think that parents have a clear understanding of those statistics and further more believe that their kid is going to be the next Mickey Mantle. It’s not the belief that’s troubling it’s what parent’s do with those beliefs that can make life miserable for a lot of people.

Let’s be clear, coach’s coach, parent’s parent, and player’s play, anytime these three things get comingled and they start stepping on each other’s toes it is a recipe for disaster with the player losing and I don’t mean the game. Let’s take a look at what happens when each person in the group above doesn’t know how to do their job, creates unrealistic expectations, and starts telling others how to do their job.

Coaches Coach

Coaching at times can be tougher than teaching. When a teacher teaches they are in a classroom with their students and unless they are being observed by an administrator no one is watching. A coach during a game and at times during practice could be being watched by large portion of the community in which they work. They do this job at times for little or no money, they invest hours of their time into trying to help improve the athletic ability of someone else’ kids, and can be under appreciated and criticized unmercifully by parents and at times by their own players. Parents I might add who have unrealistic expectations of their own child’s ability and talent. I realize that parents are required to read and sign the handbook that lays out the rules for participation and they should realize their place during games but all too often in communities where sports is the center piece parents continually discuss the coach and sadly hold these conversations within earshot of their children. The coach becomes the object of rumors and gossip and is placed under the community microscope with parents chomping at the bit for the coach to provide them the evidence to support their belief. This is all started because of the agendas of a few disgruntled parents who believe that their kid should play every game even if their kid is not the best pitching choice for the game that day. Teachers are hired for their expertise in a subject area and are left alone to deliver content to their students. When they are allowed to call upon their own creativity and don’t feel intimidated by parents, and potentially administration they feel more confident and relaxed while doing their job. Coaches are hired to coach and they need to be left alone to deliver their expertise to their players. Parents who interfere with the coach while he is doing his job place undue pressure on him/her and rob the players of the joy of competition, and camaraderie. So if you are a parent do your kid a favor and leave the coach alone. He was given the job by a school district or a community that believed in him and his abilities to teach kids a sport and to get the best out of his players. Let the coach; coach and let him/her do what they love doing.

Parents Parent

Your kid may be good at his sport but unless he/she is the next Bryce Harper they’re not making the pros. So why put all kinds of performance related pressure on this kid. By the way if you ask any professional baseball player what their parents were like when they were in little league they will tell you that their parents said to just go out and have fun; for the love of the game and nothing else. As a matter of fact that’s why they made it to the pros because of the no pressure or expectations attitude. Parents need to parent and that means to encourage, nurture natural talents, and to balance rules and regulations with compassion and understanding. Parents are their kid’s life coach and need to point their kids in the right direction by instilling in them lifelong values and character training that breads success in the future. The minute that baseball or any other sport becomes the benchmark for success any game related failures will result in the kid feeling like a failure in other areas of his life and lose the confidence necessary to move forward. So, be a parent not a coach, leave the coaching to the coaches and work with your kid to be the best he can be as a person not as a player. If they are good people they will be good players. Use sports as a vehicle to help your son/daughter show off who they really are; someone with character and values, who respects his teammates and opponents, and understands that there is only one person in charge during games and practices and that’s the coach.

Players Play

Players play; think about that we call those who participate on sports teams players. Not workers, players. What does it mean to play? It means you have fun, you do it willingly, and you can’t wait to start doing it. You enjoy it. Is that what our kids experience today when they are involved as a player on a sports team? I don’t know, what I do know is I have seen enough kids being forced to go to Tuesday night soccer practice and Saturday morning games. Many kids today only play on organized teams and to them once the game becomes something that is organized by adults the word play doesn’t enter into the equation. Furthermore kids don’t know how to play today. They don’t know how to organize themselves and play pick-up games. Often, some leagues are in townships and the kids live miles apart and they don’t have anyone to play with and sharpen the skills that they learned at practice. Kids need to run around together alone and learn how to solve problems alone with adult coaching and not with adults hovering over them offering correction because their swing was off or they don’t know how to catch a fly ball. So let the kids play, if we don’t playing won’t be playing anymore it will be work.

So What Do We Do?

The solution is rather simple, let the kids play and stay out of each other’s way; easier said than done. I have been asked for solutions to problems by teachers and parents alike. My response at times has been “I am going to tell you what to do but, you’re probably not going to do it.” They either can’t or won’t do it. Ego’s are too big and when there are folks who have some power they use it to get what they want even when it is not in the best interest of the team or a group. School districts and communities are controlled by the minority who don’t always want what’s best for a group. Sometimes parents don’t always want what’s best for their own kid and they live vicariously through them hoping that they will somehow bring completion to their own unfinished life. As a society we have lost some real professional and personal wisdom and we want to dismantle the playground because one kid fell off the monkey bars. Our kids are looking to us for answers but we are too busy arguing with each other. They then look to each other and have their friends parent them by proxy creating what Robert Bly called “The Sibling Society” where the ground is level and no one is in charge.

As adults we have created this culture in a very innocent and unwitting way, and now we have to dismantle the Frankenstein Monster. We have to stop telling parents and kids what they want to hear and be truthful about their academic and sports related ability regardless of any unrealistic parental expectations. Billy Beane of Moneyball fame was drafted in the first round by the New York Mets right out of high school. He was identified by scouts as that five tool player we spoke about earlier. He played for a short time in the major leagues and then went into scouting. He never made it as a player but became a successful general manager with the Oakland Athletics. He was successful but not as the player that everyone though he would be.

When Bryce Harper made it to the pros as an outfielder for the Washington Nationals Davey Johnson the then manager of the team asked him how he felt, Harper responded; “This is the most relaxed I have ever been in my entire life.” Harper knew that he was hit by lightening and that he was the one in eight billion who became a professional baseball player. He truly did make it. Everyone else will have to just keep on trying but in reality all kids have the potential to be great people but not professional athletes. Even if a kid gets a scholarship and is all state in his sport he will always be a big fish in a small pond so let the kid have fun, let the coaches coach, and help parents understand how unrealistic expectations can do more harm than good.

Is It Advisable to Leave Your German Shepherd With Kids?

How safe is leaving a German shepherd with kids? Children all over the world love dogs as pet and yours should not be any different. If you bring a puppy when your kid is small, it can grow along with your kid and establish bonds of love and trust.

The behavior pf this dog with kids is mostly loving and patient and is considered extremely safe. These are intelligent breed of dogs and are affectionate by nature. Most dogs with kids will not openly display their affection and will be very protective when the kid is playing.

Although it is considered safe to leave them with kids, it would be advisable to supervise them while they play. Most pets tend to walk away when the kids pull their ears or tug at their coat. The German shepherd might not run and play actively with your kid and will have a more protective nature where they keep a watch from a distance. Their role is more of a guardian and not that of a playmate.

Most kids love touching and feeling the dog and it would mostly react in a patient and calm manner. However some dogs may also choose to walk away when the kid display lots of excitement while playing.

You would be surprised to know that each breed of dog has a different personality and their patience levels may vary a lot because of this. If you observe closely you would be able to determine the unique personality of your pet. While some dogs can be very playful with your kids there are others that would prefer keeping distance.

A German shepherd puppy may be more playful than an adult dog. These breed of dogs are considered ideal companions to humans and are always willing to please. They are large animals and you would need to consider this factor when you bring them into your family.

Depending on how they are bred and trained German shepherd with kids are very compatible. Good socialization and training will help these breed of dogs interact wonderfully well with kids. If the dog is socialized in the formative years, it would be best, especially for kids.

Although these breed of dogs are not very aggressive it would be best to supervise your kids when they are playing with them. Kids may sometimes provoke your dog into aggressive behavior as they children might not be very disciplined while they play.

Sometimes the exuberance behavior of your puppy or adult dog may overwhelm the kids and you would need to keep a check on them so that there is no harm caused in an unknowing manner. If your kid is very small, it would be best to avoid wrestling with this large dog as they might not be aware of their strength and would not be able to control it in an appropriate manner.

The Jewish Kid and the Cannibal

You only get a partial story when you read this. Due to dismemberment of human limbs, and how things don’t feel good when you’re there and involved.

Once upon a time, I was visiting the mental ward of a psychiatric hospital. I had lost my first husband to a disease called putting people on major pharmaceutical phony cures for depression. His mental illness was caused by the fact that his girlfriend Angela had committed suicide by shooting herself in the stomach. This was due to the fact my first husband had left her pregnant with child, and also she had a previous daughter who had died of so-called genetic leukemia as a child herself. Or, at least, that’s the version of what happened that I ended up with. My first husband was Jewish, with parents who’d escaped the Nazis via being teenagers or so and traveling with their folks to America.

Anyway, some three score years after that, when I was visiting my husband’s now deceased cousin on said mental ward, I met a Semitic, youthfully wiry teenage boy, probably around 14 years old. I had read extensively about the Jews of New York, researching old books. Did you ever notice that all books are old books? The reality there is that you can only get a recent book. It’s amazing, but there’s no such thing exactly as books of the present or future, unless you’re reading them in progress, sometime during the publication or whatever process of print.

The young boy I met in the paragraph above? Well, he moved back and forth along a kind of number line at me, going back and forth, stating with his body language that he was and still is possibly less than zero, which is a book title. Fortunately, there is no such thing as a copyright for a book title. The boy I now call the Jewish kid explained his situation at me. He said he lived in the Seattle regional area, and that he was previously staying at an apartment somewhere in the vicinity, but he was kind of looking for another place to live. Meanwhile, he had been gauged as mentally ill somehow, possibly by him himself. Or someone or several such someone else family members or friends.

He was just all white and dark haired and Semitic looking. I recalled those stories I had read, about New York Jews in the old days where Italians used to beat them up frequently. Well, like Hitler said, there’s always something about old books. You read them, you learn from them, and sadly like Hitler did, you tend to apply them to your own real life circumstances. Really, you do. So the Jewish kid explained to me while we were on full view by the nurses on the mental ward that he didn’t really care about his life much anymore, he just wanted to maybe find a new place to live, one apart from the cannibal down the hall. He was worried about himself and the cannibal man, but he made a mistake of sorts. He was talking to someone who knows how to throw a karate punch.

Ever hear the phrase, “If you can do, do, but if you can’t do, teach?” I can only punch my was out of a wet paper bag, I think, as I’m female and after all those psychiatric medications I had been on, thank God or whatever I do that I am now off of them completely and recovering – I am waiting for them to put me back on them again, when I’m older and need pain meds in a hospital. Wow, the machine accepted the word meds. And I haven’t forgotten about Judaism either. Well the machine accepted that word either for some reason.

I immediately told the Jewish kid to settle down, very softly so that no one would interfere with us. I risked a lot doing this, but then again who knows. Is life itself even worthwhile, as Woody Allen had asked time and time again? So I taught the Jewish kid how to punch his cannibal opponent, living back there where said kid used to live, as he was planning on applying for somewhere else, but maybe he wasn’t a real man yet. That would require some ridiculous Jewish party where he gets elevated on a chair, receives ritzy presents, and or has to believe he’s an overnight adult. Maybe he’d already had his bar mitzvah oh another word this machine accepts and doesn’t try to correct.

I taught that boy how to punch, and like Ray Bradbury the science fiction writer said, he was ready for it in a red hot second. He was so intelligent and so muscular under all that skinny he seemed to be that he did a gorgeous, beautiful punch in the air to the left of me, right across in front of my face. In a split second, he had chosen exactly where to punch the cannibal man that was haunting him who lived down the hallway.

But he didn’t see himself as more valuable than a weirdo who had unnecessarily disappeared into the bottomless pit of human depravity, namely a weirdo waving a knife at him down the hallway, trying to invite the Jewish kid in so he could eat him. I need more Jews in Seattle. Hang Hitler high for being a hay man, oh shoot that has always been the problem.

The fact is the cannibal was human and was there for a reason, well, maybe not under God, but something like that. Throwing a punch is an act of physics, and even I could land a kick better than Chuck Norris and throw a punch that works, well, one that leaves someone to die slowly. Immediately, too, as that is when it begins that the oppressor becomes the victim, his own victim.

So, in short, I don’t know if the cannibal could have accepted that he should have called the cops on himself until after the first victim. You see where this is going. He would have to have at least one dead victim in his apartment before he could even call the cops on himself, or maybe he could have said, “I have been waving a knife around in the hallway outside my door, which isn’t my door ever,” and maybe he could have found a way for the cops to do something.

Maybe not, but really who knows. So the Jewish kid left the mental institution, with a punch in him, and the right thing to have done was to punch out the human, suffering, not so miserable and overly enjoying his life cannibal, before the Jewish kid was eaten by the cannibal and joined a very long list of people. Not so much, because of course the smell of dead human body parts is way too there, hovering around, and it makes it obvious which one is the cannibal’s apartment, and eventually he gets turned in by the police, of course.

This is almost getting rattled off at that. At what? Well, the Jewish kid’s choice was perhaps to take the info on how to punch someone repeatedly until it hurts enough for the cannibal to stop eating say, 10, 50 or 100 or plus humans in his apartment building, I don’t know how small or large it was there, before he got caught at it. Sort of like a depraved lion living in it. The Jewish kid I taught the world’s best karate punch too seemed to learn it, in just that small, fast, instantly there way, and maybe he used it to punch the cannibal once, and of course the cannibal maybe dragged him in there and ate him. How many people are moving into an apartment building near you?

Or maybe at least the cannibal learned some respect for the kid. And he stopped waving the knife at that kid and stopped inviting him in. And then the Jewish kid maybe got his things together, and Elvis there left the building. Anything could have happened from teaching one Jewish kid how to fight properly, and my having run out of time and ability to teach him how to kick and block. Without the dude grabbing a leg or an arm, and no teaching how to twist either.

I helped stop a major bear attack that happened near the Canadian border, it was an 800 plus pound Canadian or Alaskan black bear who was either a mom full of cubs or a dad full of park rangers, deer, other bears, what not who knows. Nobody does yet. I just wanted a Jewish husband, really, but I would never have met Ron Schwarz without Hitler, without ending up on what I needed to end up on, namely psychiatric meds. I heard a voice in my head in that small town near Canada, it said, “You’re going to marry Ronald Gary Schwarz,” gee that happened before I ever met him. Well, I did, and then there was that Jewish kid. Maybe I get help from God sometimes.

Hopefully, Adolf the wolf man isn’t God. Just some power broker from the past who died in 1947 or thereabouts. Seems he mailed me Ron Schwarz, but I loved Ron and oops maybe going on meds was my own impatient fault. So I had met our beloved son on that mental institution ward. Well, Ron never screamed the entire time his legs and body were being ripped apart by meds making him more spastic. By the way, his parents were named Gertrude Wolfe and Alexander Schwarz. They are now on the Internet forever, or else.

Something like that. Lying is impossible, and so is telling the truth. Neither one satisfies my need for the reality that is never there. The one that explains it all to me, the one the Schwarz people tried to supply me with. Somehow, death ends all that, and the rest is an animal with a huge brain talking to itself, whether male, female or both, or even anything else like a corpse or something. So, my hopes are that the Jewish kid took out that cannibal before the poor dear man made a mess out of that entire apartment building. But of course it sure isn’t better to give blow jobs all your life to an Italian monster who isn’t there.

The Italian guys in the earlier version, though were at least human beings, like Frank Sinatra or Billy Joel or that nice lady you know down the block who still speaks Italian. Why, if something eats humans but is still human, what is it? Probably a more heavily evolved human being. Maybe even a blonde one, according to Hitler, but who knows. Sigh, I suppose that is obvious? So maybe the cannibal, but wait that is a throwback to more primitive times, I guess, the guy needed the protein because you would not believe the high cost of rent, groceries, the present acceptance of human cannibalism, so on.

I’m stuck hoping the kid learned that punch, because he picked up on where to throw it without my telling him stuff, I think I may have told him to punch the guy’s face too, and was stopped short on repeatedly because I was scared both for the cannibal and for getting caught, both the kid and I, especially me and my family depends on my earning a living… you see?

I guess it is largely a case of anything goes. Well, the kid maybe had learned how to fight properly, ended up at a dojo somewhere, that sort of thing. Maybe he got the resources, as he was still an innocent kid, on the mental ward – and they moved him to Section 8 housing. And maybe there he made a fresh start. But he told me he was fascinated by the strange man down the hall who kept waving that knife at him, and saying, “Hey, come here, I got something for you, Hymie! You can come visit me, you don’t have anyone else!”

I’m hoping the kid punched him out. In the face, several times, and the dude’s knife went clattering to the floor, and that calm, all white Jewish kid walked over the body and called the police. But, what if the dude got up? The Jewish kid would have had to figure that one out by himself. Well, maybe he could have shouted, “I’m calling the police, I punched out a knife wielding loony!” He would have yelled that, but unfortunately, I had no time to teach him how to shout the special phrase in Japanese style karate where you make a very loud sound. It’s called a ki-yi, and the fact is you at least need to know about that. And the Jewish kid was maybe living all alone, with limited family support. The cannibal probably had nobody, maybe that one Jewish kid to pick on.

There’s not enough time to do that on a small, locked mental ward. Now I live in the world’s smallest house, waiting for my husband to finish reading this story. It is cozy, and at least I still have a life to lead. Meanwhile, there are still worldwide serial murderers who rape and kill their victims, and their special children, the cannibals, and of course the people who shoot at people a lot and blow things up and cause events leading up to World War III.

The Benefits Of Enrolling Your Kids In Private Schools

As kids grow, parents think of their future. Planning for their future is a must. For one, parents need to ensure that they are healthy. Next, parents need to guide their kids in the development of their skills and talent. And, parents need to prepare for their kids’ education.

Nowadays, enrolling kids in private schools is the best option to provide them with the best education. Schools can provide better features for your kids. Listed below are some of the following.

Kids learn from well-qualified instructors

First and foremost, private schools hire well-qualified and competent instructors to teach kids. As a result, kids will have instructors who are well versed with the different subjects. Schools also have an effective curriculum which can help kids learn things they need to know to improve their skills and knowledge. Some schools even offer specialized classes for kids with dyslexia, ADHD and learning differences. In this way, kids with certain conditions can be taken care of by skilled instructors.

Kids will learn properly and easily

Enrolling children in private schools can be more expensive than public schools. That is why more parents enroll their kids in public schools to save finances for their daily needs. Because of this, public schools are more crowded as compared to private schools, which is a huge advantage for your children who are enrolled in private schools since the instructors can focus on their development and help kids hone their skills. Not to mention, private schools have the latest and most effective teaching tools for your kids. Classrooms are also properly maintained to help kids feel comfortable while studying.

Provide kids with academic courses

When enrolling children in private schools, they can also enjoy academic courses. These academic courses can help kids improve their talents and skills. In addition, academic courses can also help kids improve their self-esteem. Some schools also offer specific religious education component which can help kids learn more about certain religious beliefs that can guide them.

Kids will enjoy sports activities

Finally, children can enjoy sports activities. This is possible since private schools do not only focus on mental strengths, but schools can also help your kids boost their physical abilities. With this, kids can improve their health which can help them prevent diseases from affecting their performance and health.

With all these, children can improve their skills and knowledge to guide them in creating a better and more lucrative future ahead of them.

Kids’ Parties – A Practical Guide to Hosting a Kids Party

Expectations

Whether to have a “party” or not is up to the parents and what makes them feel comfortable. However, it’s best to be realistic when it comes to expectations. Throwing a party for a 2 year old with pony rides, a magician, jumping castle, decadent food and a three tier cake is a waste of money if the expectation is for that child to remember any of it. Chances are they won’t even stay awake or they may have a meltdown as it’s just all too much for them. It’s only natural to want to celebrate these milestones but for kids under five, keeping it low key with family and close friends is recommended, until the kids and parents are ready for the responsibility, cost and exhaustion that comes with throwing a party (as well as the fun, excitement and joy!!)

Guest List

Who to invite seems to cause the most angst when it comes to kids’ parties. Again it’s up to the parent and child as to what feels acceptable. Beware of inviting the whole class, unless looking after 20-30 kids is not daunting and you have a whip and chair handy! For school age children, their preferences should be respected. Inviting kids they don’t know at all or may not necessarily like, may lead to social issues on the day. Humility and resilience are also important – kids shouldn’t gloat about having a party or being invited to one but also need to learn they aren’t always going to be invited either. More kids = more cost, more time and preparation and more chance for accidents and incidents. However, the age plus one rule is not necessarily practical either -6 kids won’t necessarily create a party atmosphere or make playing party games workable. A good number is 12 to 15.

RSVP

Should you RSVP? YES! Some people go to a lot of effort, time and preparation when it comes to organising a kid’s party. There can be a lot of per head costs like party bags, entertainment and food. Respect that the organiser has gone to this effort and cost and their child is looking forward to being surrounded by their friends. Also no one should be put in a position where they don’t have a party bag, cupcake or prize for a child because they weren’t expecting them. Having only one or two kids show up would be even worse.Don’t rely on kids to RSVP to the birthday child or their parent – communicate directly with the organiser to prevent misunderstandings. This also ensures they then have all parents’ details if something happens on the day or they are not staying.

There was a post recently about the controversial decision of a mother in the UK to send the parent of a boy that didn’t show up to her child’s party, an invoice for £15.95, as a no show fee (to cover the ski slope fee). Okay, maybe that’s a bit extreme and yes, plans change and kids get sick but if a child does RSVP yes and they can no longer make it, then it’s courtesy to let the organiser know, even if it’s just a text message.

Sometimes taking siblings is unavoidable and organisers appreciate this. Again it’s courtesy to let them know if siblings are coming and if the party is at somewhere like a roller skating rink or the movies it is their parent’s responsibility to pay for and supervise those siblings.

For the organiser -hand out the invitations at least 2 weeks before the party; the more notice the greater chance of people being able to make it. Be aware of things like Saturday morning sports that can prevent a lot of kids from being able to make it. A great tip to prevent invitations getting lost is to pop a magnet on the back so it goes on the fridge. Also, make sure all communication options are listed, e.g. mobile phone and email and the date the RSVP is required by. That way there is no excuse for someone not being able to contact the organiser.

Drop Off or Stay

This depends on the party venue, e.g. secure play centre vs a park or the family home; age and personality of the child and the relationship with the birthday child’s family. The best thing to do is assess the situation when arriving, e.g. how many kids there are, the level or supervision, etc. but it wouldn’t normally be considered appropriate to leave a preschool age child at a party without a parent nor a child who may be clingy or insecure.

Gift Opening

Giving a kid a pile of presents and telling them they can’t open it would be like putting a block of Cadbury’s finest in front of a chocoholic and telling them they can’t have it. However, it can cause chaos and delay things like games or entertainment. The best option is to discuss with the birthday child beforehand when the present opening will be. The end of the party is good after the entertainment and cake are done but before everyone leaves so that the giver gets to see the child open their present. Thank you cards may not be practical if a parent is not sitting there opening the presents like you would do with a toddler as you may not even be able to match the presents to the givers. Parents should not be too hard on themselves when it comes to this practice but do ensure the birthday child thanks their friends for their gift and for coming and vice versa.

Provisions

What should the party host provide? The merriam-webster dictionary describes a party as “a social event in which entertainment, food, and drinks are provided”.

How to entertain the kids is probably the second biggest issue behind who to invite and is the one aspect of a kids’ party that parents are mostly likely to outsource. It depends on the age of the kids, number of kids, whether the party host is comfortable entertaining a group of kids and if not what their budget is. As a guide – toddlers are happy to play with what is in the home, I.e what the birthday child plays with or the local play centre or playground. Jumping castles, face painters and balloonist are great for pre-schoolers and party games are good to introduce from age 5 and upwards, as are magicians, animal shows, etc. Movies, roller skating rinks, etc. are better left for when they are a bit more mature and able to self regulate their behaviour (and coordination!). It’s important to be consistent. Don’t raise a child’s expectations with a trip to Dreamworld one year and takeaway dinner from Maccas the next.

The type of food to provide depends on the time of day the party is being held. If the party is from say 11.00 to 1.00 then there is an expectation of substantial lunch time food. Lighter refreshments are fine for late afternoon. Also, if there is an expectation for the parents to stay then they should be provided for also, especially as it’s quite likely they have been running around doing errands beforehand and have probably forgotten to eat. Make sure there is plenty of water and not just cordial and soft drinks, especially in summer.

Party Bags

The kids are worn out from running around, bellies are full, the cake has been done and it’s time to go home and the first child that leaves is looking expectantly at the party host and whispers in anticipation “are there party bags?” (okay maybe it’s just my child that does this!!). Despite extensive research it is difficult to locate the origin of “party bags”. They began as lolly bags but with the health revolution and high rate of childhood obesity these have become frowned upon. But let’s face it, kids are materialistic! Who wouldn’t want to receive a little gift? But they also like giving – they take pleasure in handing out goody bags, especially if they have made or decorated them. It’s up to the party host to decide what to give – it’s a bit pointless to hand out something that is going to get thrown in the trash within an hour of getting home just for the sake of distributing something,but it’s also not necessary to send them home with a mini Van Gough or iPod. Something practical they can use or an art/craft activity they can do quietly when they get home is sure to be appreciated. Whatever the decision, the intention should be obvious – if party bags are going to be handed out, it’s good to have them in plain view and task the you birthday child or a relative with making sure the kids get one when they leave so no one misses out! If there are no party bags, make it light and polite, e.g. “sweetheart the prize you got in the pass the parcel was our thank you gift.”

On a recent survey conducted (of my own two children ), when asked what their favourite part of having a party is, their response was “the cake & the party bags”, whereas I would spend far more time on decorations and entertainment. It just goes to show that parents probably stress unnecessarily over aspects that the birthday child and their guests may not even notice. It doesn’t mean I’m going to stop doing those things as I enjoy it and it’s my contribution to them. However, I do outsource things I don’t like to do, e.g. the cake, food, taking photos, etc. so they are things I don’t have to stress about and I’m left to enjoy the day with the kids, which is what it’s all about in the end…

Raising Mal-Adjusted Kids in 6 Easy Steps!

Would you like to learn the secrets for raising negative, emotionally unstable children? Would you like to learn how to raise children who grow up to be angry, jealous, judgmental and bitter adults? Would you like to learn how to destroy your kid’s self-esteem so they start drinking and doing drugs at the earliest age possible? Are you interested in turning siblings against each other so they grow up envious and distrustful of one another?

If you’re like most parents the answer is, “NO!” However, I’ve recently been exposed to some horrific parents who should not have been allowed to pro-create. The amount of emotional baggage and lack of maturity in these people make them unfit to be parents. How can an adult who stopped growing emotionally at the age of 12, be expected to raise emotionally stable children?

The truth is that anyone can give you “good” parenting advice, but what can you learn from that? In order to really create mal-adjusted kids, you need to put yourself in the shoes of the parents who know the least and whose intentions are at best misguided and at worst, toxic. They can teach you things you never would have thought of yourself. So, if you’re interested in raising real losers, apply the following 6 steps with as much consistency as possible.

Step 1. DISRESPECT YOUR SPOUSE! – Fight and argue with your spouse as often as possible. Be sure your kids witness these outbursts. Disrespect each other as often as possible. Call your spouse terrible names, slander him or her, and put him or her down loud enough so your kids can hear it anywhere in the house. Remember your kids will listen. If you really want to screw with your child’s mind, tell your child what a loser the other parent is at every opportunity. These simple, easy to follow steps can put you on the fast track towards raising angry, sullen and disrespectful kids. Remember your child will tend to treat his or her spouse the same way you treat yours. If you follow these instructions to the letter, not only will you put your kids on a path to self-destruction, but you can screw up your future grandchildren and future generations as well.

Step 2. DISAPPROVE! – Never hesitate to insult, criticize, disapprove and belittle your children. To create lasting damage you must start when they are very young. Constantly tell them: “You’re stupid!” “You’re a loser!” “You’ll never amount to anything!” “You’re trash!” “You look horrible!” You can quickly destroy their self-image by telling them that they are fat or ugly. For added destruction constantly compare them to a model in a magazine or television show. Be sure your disapprovals are cloaked with as much anger, contempt, sarcasm and disgust as possible. Sadly, your off the wall emotions will quickly reveal that “you” are an emotionally disturbed toxic parent, but hopefully your child will never catch on. It is critical that your kids never learn how messed-up “you” actually are. You must constantly turn it around and place the guilt, shame and self-loathing back on them. Remember “smother-love” (overprotecting, overindulging and defending them when they need to accept responsibility for their actions) is more destructive than “mother-love” (acceptance, kindness, support and praise).

Step 3. GOSSIP! – As your kids listen, spread as much negative gossip about your family and neighbors as possible. Trashing your family members and neighbors is a fantastic skill to develop and instill in your kids. This will insure that your child becomes a highly judgmental human being. If you have nothing nasty to say, simply make something up-just be sure your kids hear it.

Step 4. LIE! – Allow your kids to catch you telling a lie and then deny it. This is a very important step. You can never truly screw your kids up unless you become an expert at “lie & deny.” Lie to your kids and spouse as often as you can. Learn to use the phrase, “I never said that!” Become a master at “cover-ups” and covering your tracks. Never admit fault or wrong-doing. Most of all use lies to cover-up lies. This will help your children not to feel guilty when they don’t own up to their own mistakes nor take responsibility for their own behavior.

Step 5. BUY THEM OFF! – Replace love with material things! This may be the most important step of all. Since some parents don’t love themselves, it’s very difficult for them to give love or show compassion. You can’t give love to someone else when you don’t have any for yourself. The secret is to buy your kids off! Replace love with bribes and material possessions. The more outrageous their demands the more they should be met. Your kids will love this part because they won’t realize until they get older that your love was “store-bought.” And by that time it’s too late-the damage has already been done! Remember, if you’re ever tempted to give any love or compassion to your kids, quickly retreat and buy them an iPod or a trip to Europe.

Step 6. BE THEIR FRIEND! – I recently heard a parent say, “All teens drink and smoke pot, what can I do? I’ll let mine do the same, so they fit in with the crowd.” I wholeheartedly agree with this very enlightened parent. Let your kids do whatever they want without boundaries. If your neighbor’s kids drink, allow your kids to do the same. All kids do it, right? If a school mate smokes pot to relax, don’t teach your child there’s a better way. Instead, cop out and show them where to buy this drug. With any luck they may eventually get hooked on stronger narcotics. I also believe you should smoke, do drugs and fall down sloppy drunk while your kids watch. After all, what’s your goal; to raise a self-fulfilled winner or a mediocre, second-rate loser? More importantly, as you continue to promote their unsafe drug, booze and sex habits, insist they do it at home under your watchful eye where it is safe!

THAT’S ENOUGH! Let’s get real. Every example I used above is authentic, and I’ve sadly witnessed hundreds more. There is only one way to raise a child who has the best chance to attain his or her full potential–do the complete opposite of everything I have written here.

As parents, we have a tremendous amount of affirmative power and an inalienable obligation to promote our child’s positive development. Too often inappropriate parenting can cause a child to feel abandoned even though he or she is still living at home with parents. Our children are a reflection of who we are and our own works of art. Let’s teach them that they are masterpieces. This is a major step in “enlightened parenting.” We can change our world by releasing into it—emotionally stable kids.

Adolescent Independence: 10 Things Your Kids Should Be Able to Do on Their Own by Middle School

It used to be that kids were treated as mini adults, and now the pendulum has swung the other way and young adults are being treated (and acting) as overgrown kids. You have probably heard about the damage of being a too intense parent–whether that means tiger mom or helicopter parent. Now you may be wondering what should you be expecting of your child? The early childhood markers of independence–sitting, walking, potty training, etc.–get talked about a lot, but what is reasonable to expect of our older children is not as clear. Just what should our early adolescent/middle school kids be able to do on their own?

I started thinking about this from the kids’ point of view. That made me remember the children’s literature I grew up on. Many of my favorite books were about young people taking charge independently–often away from their parents. Let’s start with Enid Blyton’s The Famous Five series. Beginning with Five on a Treasure Island, five cousins spend the summer having one adventure after the next. There is home base where meals are offered and the children check in, but the assumption of the adults seems to be that as long as they are out in the fresh air, together, that they are generally fine no matter what they are getting up to. In the Swallows and Amazon books by Arthur Ransome, six children are given permission to camp on an island in the middle of a lake. They cook over open fires and deal with the local “natives” (as the children refer to the adults) to procure supplies. Another popular example of kids on a mission is From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler by E. L. Konigsburg. It is about two children who run away from the suburbs to New York City and who handle themselves very well. In all these books, the children are supported by friends, cousins or siblings and range in age between around 9 and 13. For me the common themes are that a) children are generally seen as very capable and b) they relish in the opportunity to show how able they are to take care of themselves.

When kids are very little we are aware of teaching them what they need to take care of themselves. We do not expect infants to learn to sit, to walk, to talk, to use the potty by themselves. Day after day, month after month, we train them and encourage them to take things one level further. We also give a lot of enthusiastic reinforcement for each new thing they learn. These days, however, as soon as kids hit school–whether that is preschool or Kindergarten–we tend to focus solely on their academic and extra curricular progress. Once they learn to tie their own shoes, it is like they get frozen in childhood where we are still taking care of everything else for them. The result is that we leave them to do a lot of learning on their own when they get to college or out into the world. Doesn’t it make more sense to bring them along a continuum of self care and autonomy right from the start?

Based on twelve years as a seventh grade teacher, I have a good idea of what 11-14 year olds are capable of if it has been expected of them and their parents have taken the time to teach it to them in stages. Here are my Top Ten Responsibilities Kids Should Be Taking by Middle School.

1. Get up, dressed and washed on their own

Do you still wake your child up for school? Stop! It should be their job to set their own alarm, to pick out appropriate clothes, and to have good routines for washing and brushing themselves. Your only job should be to introduce deodorant when the need for it arises and to support the school’s dress code.

2. Make their own breakfasts

Kids are certainly capable of getting their own cereal, toast, frozen waffles, etc. If your family manages a hot breakfast, that’s fantastic. Kids can also learn to make pancakes and eggs and the like with practice. Starting around eight or nine, have them work alongside you. Model the steps. I hear you saying, they don’t have time to get ready. It is easier if I just do it for them. Of course it is easier and faster not to take time to give kids the skills they need in the short run. In the long run, it doesn’t pay off. (And while I’m talking about food, teach your five and six year olds to cut their meat with a knife. With care and attention, they will not hurt themselves).

3. Make their own lunches

Are you under the illusion that your child is eating her lunch? I spent years–years!–lecturing students about not throwing away perfectly good food. You know what their answer was? My mom doesn’t like it when I come home without eating what she packs me. So, rather than deal with the conversation about why they didn’t eat what was provided, kids throw away the evidence. Children who pack their own lunches pack food they know they’ll eat. They know what to pack and how much to pack.

4. Get to school on their own

Okay, you may balk at this one. I know that lots of kids no longer go to their neighborhood schools and few school districts provide busses. There are still ways to give kids their independence. For one, stop being in charge of checking if they have remembered everything they are going to need for the day. They are big enough to keep track of that on their own–and if they are not, suffering the natural consequences of not remembering will be a much faster teacher than your nagging and reminders. Even if you are driving your kids to school, give them the anonymity of dropping them off three or four blocks away. This ten minute walk will allow them at least a little taste of freedom–and you will make the school happy by improving the drop off/pick up congestion.

5. Do homework on their own

The sooner you let your kids manage homework on their own the better. So how do you scaffold that? Help them set up a place and a routine for doing their work. When they ask for help, encourage them to attack it on their own by asking supportive questions: How could you approach this? What is the assignment asking for? How does this assignment look like other assignments you have done? What strategy could you use here? Ask–and then back off. Give your child a chance to do it on his own. Offer a lot a reassurance that he will figure it out. If he has worked on it a reasonable amount of time (ten minutes per grade level total is a good overall recommendation–but that’s a whole other blog), let it be okay for him to go to school without it done. Help him set up a method like a folder for homework to turn in. Initially you can check that it gets into the folder and the folder into the backpack, but by third or fourth grade, if kids do not have the system down, they have not been taking responsibility for their own learning. (That is not to say that as each new school year begins it might not be necessary to check in with your child’s system again.)

6. Do some cooking and some cleaning

It used to be that kids had to help out with chores just to keep the family alive. In fact, the need for extra hands was one of the reasons for having large families. Then for a long time, that was not true. Modernization meant that machines started taking over some of the work and there was less to do. Many mothers were able to stay home to take care of their households and their families. Now that the pendulum has shifted back and 70% of mothers are in the workforce, families where everyone pitches in are much happier. Children may groan about doing chores, but they hate having stressed out parents even more. Get your kids involved in the daily tasks of cooking and cleaning, and they will have the pride of knowing that they have contributed positively to the family. Being needed means that you are important, that your family couldn’t get by without you. That gives children a tremendous sense of security. Knowing you can take care of yourself also reinforces your own self worth.

7. Choose their own electives and extra-curricular activities

Parents have a tough job finding the fine balance between encouraging kids to try new things and at the same time to stick with activities long enough that they have the satisfaction of feeling truly accomplished. At the end of it all, though, don’t you want to know that your kids have found something they really love? Not something that will look good on their college apps or will help them as adults–or even something that they are really good at–but just something that has them fully engaged and alive. I had a sad conversation with a teen this summer who started off playing two sports: Her mom loved one; her dad loved the other. When she needed to choose just one do just one because of time constraints, she felt like she was choosing between making one parent happy or the other. I asked if she is just crazy about this sport. She said she liked hanging out with her friends on the team but that no, she doesn’t just love it. Imagine, she has spent hours and hours of her life pursuing something she only likes.

8. Talk to teachers to get clarification on assignments, to ask for help, to ask questions about comments and grades received

Your child’s teacher is his first boss. There is no academic lesson your child will learn that is more important than learning to negotiate his relationship with his teacher. Learning to communicate with people in more powerful positions than you is an essential life skill, and practicing with one’s teacher is the perfect opportunity: The teacher may have power, but she is highly motivated for your child to be successful (after all, his success is her success). Support your child in this relationship by role playing and rehearsing what he might say when he needs something from his teacher. The more he can interact with his teacher, the easier it will become. Only step in on your child’s behalf if your child has tried a few interactions and hasn’t gotten anywhere. Again, the goal is not to swoop in and rescue your child from any feelings of discomfort. Rather it is to support him through an uncomfortable situation so that he will be more at ease next time.

9. Be able to handle money

Personal finance is not my area of expertise, so for this one, I’m going to connect you to Bill Dwight, CEO of a nifty website/product called FamZoo ( FamZoo.com ). Read his blog here on 7 Practical Tips for Raising Money Smart Kids ( http://blog.famzoo.com/2014/09/7-tips-for-raising-money-smart-kids.html ). This was the area I failed to scaffold and had to scramble to fill in the gaps as my daughter went off to college. How I wish I had been developing her independence in this area all along.

10. Get around by themselves

These days it seems like kids sit in the back seat of a car glued to an electronic device, oblivious to where they are, trusting their parent will get them to where they want to go. When my stepson was learning to drive, my husband and he went to a store they often had gone to before in the next town north. When they got back into the car, my husband said I want you to take us home without any help. The ten minute trip took forty-five minutes because even though he had made the drive north, my stepson hadn’t really paid attention to where he was beyond the step-by-step instructions my husband had given him. Meanwhile, my daughter, two years away from being eligible for her driver’s permit, was able to describe perfectly how to get home. I chalk this up to the fact that because she and I had taken public transportation–and she had taken it on her own once I had done it with her–she had learned the major streets and landmarks near by. Knowing she could find her way home–whether driving or on foot or using public transportation gave her enormous confidence.

Teaching your kids these lessons and setting these expectations for them for middle school means they will have time to master them by the time they hit high school. Armed with self sufficiency and self efficacy, your teenager will be able to focus on expanding into the world–for jobs, for internships, for summer travel programs, to be leaders on school teams and in school clubs. Most importantly, they will be ready to go off to college as the 18-year-old adults the state considers them to be. They will have skills to handle roommates, a large campus with lots of buildings, clean clothes, getting themselves fed, handling their money, talking to professors, deans and resident assistances, etc. etc. They will not find the need to text their parents every day just to stay on track. Can you imagine checking in with your parents every day when you were in college? No way! To set your kids free, train them up bit by bit.

Elisabeth Stitt is the author of Parenting as a Second Language (http://tinyurl.com/guapk53) and the founder of Joyful Parenting Coaching http://www.elisabethstitt.com. Before that she was a teacher in the Redwood City School District (Redwood City, CA) for 25 years–to mostly middle school students.

In addition to her interactions with thousands of students and mothers and fathers, Elisabeth is the mother and step-mother to three adult children. Now that her own kids have left the nest, she focuses on supporting moms and dads in raising strong, confident kids. She is known for her warmth, wisdom and love of all thing kids.

Elisabeth’s mission is to support care givers in getting the skills they need to restore their confidence and their enjoyment in the role. Elisabeth’s newsletters, blogs, workshops and webinars all strive to provide a balance between concrete advice and the understanding that there are many, many ways to approach raising your kids–and each family has to find what works for them and the child they have.

Chores Make Kids Successful and Happy

Okay, I can’t guarantee the happiness promise, but a recent article called “Science says parents of successful kids have these 13 things in common” published in Tech Insider does list chores as one factor that might lead to children’s success as adults. They quote author Julie Lythcott-Haims (How to Raise an Adult) as praising chores because it teaches kids that they “have to do the work of life in order to be part of life.”

Let’s look at the benefit of chores a little more deeply (and I will put forth my not-scientifically-proven theory on why it also makes kids happier).

1. Doing Chores Raises Self Esteem

Self Esteem is confidence about one’s own worth and abilities. Little kids may not have learned to read and older kids may be struggling with long division or quadratic equations, but most kids can learn to make their beds and sweep the floor. Are these worthwhile tasks? Of course they are. And it is much easier for a child to understand the usefulness of a clean floor than to grasp where algebra is going to work for them in their lives. Kids who feel capable and competent have higher self esteem. Chores are one area most kids can develop competency relatively easily.

2. Doing Chores Makes Kids Feel Needed

When we wait on our kids hand and foot, it gives kids the wrong estimation of their own importance. Ironically, just like praising kids too profusely, doing everything for kids does not build their sense of being important; rather it leaves kids feeling adrift and disconnected. What kids want to feel is that the are important because their family needs them. When the character Dill in To Kill a Mockingbird explains to Scout, the main character, why he runs away from home, Scout asks herself, “what I would do if Atticus [her father] did not feel the necessity of my presence, help and advice” (143). Scout firmly recognizes her place in her family and knows how essential it is to her to feel needed by them. Contributing to the well being of the family by doing household chores is a great way for kids to feel they are an integral cog in the wheel of a smooth family life.

3. Doing Chores Shares the Work

In previous generations, families had a lot of kids precisely because a large work force was needed just to keep the family farm or business going. As soon as they could toddle, children were given simple chores to do. In this way, all the tasks of life got done and families thrived. Today, although more tasks are mechanized and there are fewer chores to do at home, people are also a lot busier outside of the home. With parents working and kids going off to a schedule packed full of extracurriculars, there is very little time left to what chores they are. And yet, “according to a survey by Braun Research in 2014, 82 percent of grown-ups polled said they had regular chores when they were growing up, but only 28 percent reported asking their children to do any (July 12 2015). Wow! Instead, imagine a home where the work was shared as equally as possible among the family members. Kids would have a much greater appreciation for what it takes to keep everyone fed and dressed in clean clothes. Appreciation is linked to happiness!

4. Kids Doing Chores Reduces Parental Stress

With only 28% of the kids helping out on a regular basis, parents are coming home after a full day’s work and are facing a full evening of chores. Just thinking about it is exhausting. Parents complain to me that they have no time to just hang out with their kids. But is that because their kids are watching t.v. or playing video games while their parents fix dinner? How about having the kids in the kitchen with you? One child can grate cheese while another cuts up vegetables. While kids’ hands and attention are busy is a great time to ask more in-depth questions, open-ended questions. Chore time becomes connection time, and human connection is one of the most important factors for happiness. One last hidden factor in reducing stress is that parents who are not up washing the dishes or folding the laundry after their kids have gone to bed might actually have time to sit down next to each and connect themselves! Connected parents do a better job supporting their kids and making them feel secure.

5. Doing Chores Teaches Kids at Home Skills They Can Use at School

Uh? How does doing the laundry help with writing a clear, well-supported essay? Well, doing laundry teaches responsibility, accountability, planning, attention to detail and follow through (Did you ever have a bunch of clothes go moldy because you forget to transfer them to the dryer?). Aren’t those all skills that you need in essay writing? Of course! And in all kinds of school related tasks like doing homework on time, turning homework back in, chunking assignments into multiple steps, etc. Kids who have learned to take on tasks as their own are the same kids who are independent learners. They are also great team members for group work. They know that many hands make light work and they stand at the ready to do their share. They do not expect someone else–much less Mom or Dad–to do their work for them.

And that’s not all!!

So here you have four arguments for chores increasing your kids’ happiness and one argument for chores increasing their success in school (not to mention later in life). And here’s one more argument: Doing chores as children helps teach kids early on about work/life balance. Life is not just about doing school work, dutifully practicing piano and going to soccer practice. It is also about creating a salubrious space in which to live and cooking nutritious meals that bring the family together. Those have long been considered mainstays of a happy home. Oh, and did I mention that kids who take part in the cooking have more varied, nutritious diets? And that kids who sharing in the washing and cleaning take better care of their clothes and toys? Really, the more I think about it, the longer the list gets.

Fiji Kids Clubs

Shangri-La’s Fijian Resort

Shangri-La’s Little Chiefs Club is for children aged between 4 and 12 years old. The club is free for guests. Children aged under 4 need a babysitter or parent. There are different activities arranged each day based on two age groups 4-8 year olds and 9-12 year olds. Activities take place at the kids club or at the children’s pool, on the beach or at the children’s playground. The Little Chiefs Club is open every day from 9am to 12noon and 1pm to 5pm.

Plantation Island

Plantation Island has the ‘Coconut Club’, a free kids club for guests. When you first visit the club you get a free t-shirt which the kids get to decorate. The club is for kids aged 4 to 11 with kids under 4 requiring a babysitter or parent to attend. The club is open daily from 9am to 1pm, 2pm to 5pm and 6.30pm till 9pm. The kids club room has a ball pit, jumping castle and TV and the activities features a mixture of traditional games combined with Fijian cultural activities.

Castaway Island

The Castaway Kids Club includes supervised daily adventures and educational games with a Fijian flavour. The club is for kids aged 3 years and over and is open from 9am to 4 pm and 5.30 to 9pm daily. The club is free for guests.

Mana Island

Mana’s Tu Vonu Kids Club is for kids aged 3-12 years. There is a one-off payment of F$25 per child per stay for registration and includes some souvenir gifts as a reminder of the stay. The club is open from 10 am till 12 noon, 2pm to 4pm and 7pm to 9pm daily.

Malolo Island

Malolo’s Tai’s Treehouse kids club is for kids 4-12 year old. The club is free for guests and has plenty of equipment and games with a fully fenced playground. Kids under 4 require a babysitter. Malolo has introduced a new kids activities program which will immerse them in a fun, innovative and educational way into island life and will include a focus on the environment, the culture and the history of Malolo Island and Fiji in general.

Out rigger Resort

Out rigger has the Little Riggers program for 3 – 7 years and the Beach Riggers program for 8 – 12 years. The activities run daily from 10am to 12 noon, 2pm to 4pm and 7pm to 9pm. Kids club activities are free for guests. Out rigger also offers a nanny service for children 6 months to 12 years. A teenager activity program is also available and includes hiking activities, spear making and trips to local attractions (at a small cost).

The Naviti Resort

The Naviti’s Ratu & Adi Vonu kids club is for 5-12 year olds. The club is open most of the day from 9am to 10pm and is free for resort guests. The kids club has a play area for the kids as well as a daily activities program and night time activities. Children under 5 are welcome if they are accompanied by a babysitter or parent.

The Warwick Resort

The Warwick KARE club is open for children between the ages of 3 and 11 years. There are plenty of activities to keep the kids occupied however there is a charge of F$5 per child per day. The club is open daily from 9am to 12 noon and from 1.30pm until 4pm.

Hideaway Resort

The Hermit Crab Kids Club is suitable for children 5 – 12 years and is free of charge. Babysitting is available for children aged 1 – 4 years. There are a number of activities including some traditional Fijian activities.

Radisson Blu Resort

The Pirate’s Cove Kid’s Club is available for kids ages 4 to 12. There are three sessions daily from 9.00am – 1.00pm, 1.00pm – 5.00pm and 5.00pm – 8.30pm. The club is not free and expect to pay up to F$10 per child per session.

Sheraton Fiji Resort

Sheratons Lai Lai kids club to offers a comprehensive daily program ranging from Fijian Language Lessons to Fish Feeding and Face Painting, to name just a few. The club is free for guests aged 4-12 years and under 4’s are welcome if accompanied by an adult. The club has day and night time sessions.

Jean-Michel Cousteau Fiji Resort

The Bula Club has two kids programs; the Lei Lei Bula Club for kids 0 to 5 years and the Marau Bula Club for kids 6 to 12 years. The Bula club is free for guests and features a daily program of activities that are fun, educational and cultural. The Bula club is available from 8am to 9pm daily. A feature of the club is a dedicated nanny (or buddy) who will look after your child for the day and the duration of your stay. The Bula club program also includes fresh, healthy meals and bottled soft drinks making it one of the most popular kids clubs in Fiji.

Treasure Island

The Treasure Island kids club has a large purpose-built bure featuring a host of fun activities and strategically located in the centre of the island. The Club’s innovative program of activities is run by dedicated fully qualified staff and features activities that cater for all ages. The club is open to children aged 3 and over. The club is free for guests and has daily registration from 9.30 am, an afternoon session as well as a night session from 7pm till 9pm.

Sofitel Fiji Resort

The Turtle kids club is for kids aged 2-12 years old. The club is divided into three age groups, 0 to 3 years, 3 to 6 years and 6 to 12 years and features an indoor playground. The club is open daily from 9am to 9pm and a $30 charge per child per day applies.

Fiji Beach Resort & Spa Managed by Hilton

The Kids Club features a spacious outdoor play area and two indoor activity rooms. The club is open between 9am to 5pm daily for kids aged 3 – 12 years. Kids under 3 welcome if they are accompanied by a parent or nanny. The club has activities specifically designed for different age groups. The kids club is free for guests.

How a Toy Can Change Your Kid’s Life

Introduction

Kids toys are not only designed and meant for play pleasure, relaxation, games and fun -they are also essential as great tools in health, mental and academic development of kids.

How can a toy change your kid’s life? You may ask. When a child involves in processes by playing, they tend to become creative and develop abilities that would go on to build their academic prowess.

Toys are undoubtedly beneficial to kids and can help to change their lives in no small way. A toy can change your kids’ life in different ways. Toys serve as the building blocks for the future of your kids.

Toys educate your kids about themselves and the world. One way a toy can change your kid’s life is by sending messages and communicating values generally, some of the ways a toy can change your kid’s life are in the development of

A). Social & Emotional Abilities:

Dolls and stuffed animals are best for representing human beings through make-believe roles. Children develop security, happiness, sharing and cooperation via play.

Stuffed toys, musical mobiles can give soothing remedy and luxury to a child in trauma. While other toys for make-believe like get dressed-up clothes, toy automobiles, vans, video games, musical units, and books assist children in constructing self-expression and confidence.

B). Physical Abilities:

Playing on swings, monkey bars, skipping, assist in building physical dexterity, strength and balance in kids. Other toys which include toy vehicles, wagons, motorcycles, brooms, and shovels also broaden their physical or muscle improvement.

C). Creativity:

Great motor abilities required for writing and creative artistic development may be developed in kids through drawing, painting and art sports. Toys for creative and highbrow development include clay, crayons, paints, books, paper, and scissors.

D). Language Development:

Reading and playing with image books help increase listening and communication capabilities in kids

E). Cognitive and Problem Solving Capabilities:

Playing with nature based activities like sand toys and play dough; water toys assist youngsters with turning them to be good at investigating and experimenting because their sense of interest, curiosity, and discovery is ignited.

Playing with boxes, puzzles, and blocks, also teach them the way to group, manage and categorize objects.

Some toys fit into more than one category, and kids need to enjoy playing with the toys from different categories for total development.

F). Logical Reasoning:

Exposing your kids through toys to logical reasoning at an early age, enables the kid develop his/her mind and create an essential basis for their ability to examine and make connections in data reasoning in the future.

Distinctive studying tools like puzzles and building blocks assist in beefing up a baby’s potential to sequence, conceptualize, and sooner or later troubleshoot problems.

G). Mathematical Skills:

it’s never too early too early to construct a “can-do” mindset towards math in your kids’ lives!

Toys that encourage counting, simple operations and figuring out shapes are right tools to begin getting to know about math. Despite the fact that this is frequently the challenge in which kids lack self-assurance, here’s your chance to get your kids to feel he can be a hit at it in an enjoyable and less stressful manner!

Now you know how a toy can change your kid’s life!

Conclusion

Toys can change kids live positively in no small measure.
Toys are great in building the mental capacity of your kids.
Never deny your kids access to great toys.