Teaching Your Son About Sex

Parents have an active role to play in educating their sons about sex, and introducing the subject at an early age can reinforce important issues such as childbirth, relationship values, contraception and sexual health. Skipping or delaying this education can lead to young males experimenting with sex at an early age, and it can also result in unhappy relationships, unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

Introduce your son to the importance of sexual relationships at an early age, as this will help him be more comfortable with the subject as time progresses. Use opportunities to address the subject when curiosity arises, especially when your son wants to know where babies come from or asks about reproductive organs.
Explain how parents sleep together, and always be clear about sex being an act of love as well as a form of reproduction. Always reinforce that sex is a healthy activity and never be embarrassed when your son asks awkward questions. Answer with honesty, and try to include props to explain how adults make babies, such as picture books or educational videos.
Use everyday situations to talk about sex in a frank and open manner. Use examples on television or from other relationships that the child sees to provide information about good and bad sexual behavior. Try to make sex a part of everyday life but encourage your son to wait until you get home before asking questions instead of addressing issues in public.
Introduce the emotions and needs that adults encounter, and explain how sex can be used to satisfy them. Make it clear that adults can safely indulge in sexual behavior without having to make babies, and that the experience can be one of enjoyment and fulfillment. Also discuss the fact that some adults choose to practice abstinence until marriage, and fulfill themselves through masturbation.
Talk about masturbation as your son reaches puberty, and stress that the habit is perfectly natural and healthy. Explain that masturbation is a tool for learning about the body as well as a source of sexual stimulation, and that couples practice the technique as well. Introduce the importance of sexual health, and encourage your son to regularly his wash hands and genitals after periods of private touching.
Talk about contraception during his early teenage years, and explain how different contraceptive methods prevent the risk of pregnancy. Give examples of the difficulties that unwanted pregnancies can cause, and explain that sleeping with multiple sexual partners without contraception can also lead to sexually transmitted diseases. Discretely leave condoms in your son’s bedroom so he becomes familiar with wearing them, and always encourage him to keep condoms in a wallet once he begins dating.

Sex Education Games for Kids

With the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2016 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey finding that 7.1 percent of students have sexual intercourse before age 13, the need for sex education in kids’ lives remains prevalent. While some adults may disagree about what age to begin sex education, kids can learn valuable information by engaging in sex education games.

Adventures in… Sex City

Sex education games targeting kids may help them develop strong values regarding sexual behavior. The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) hopes as much, funding development of a video game aimed at teaching sex negotiation and refusal skills to kids ages 9 to 14. Another organization using sex education games to reach out to kids, the London-Middlesex Health Unit, created the “Adventures in… Sex City” game. Accessible at the Health Unit’s official site, the game features cartoon superheroes fighting the evil Sperminator, who tries infecting citizens with various sexually transmitted diseases and infections (STDs and STIs, respectively). Players choose one of four “Sex Squad” superhero characters and answer sex-related questions. For each correct question, players deflect the STI-ridden sperm back to the Sperminator, who loses power from his power meter with each hit. If players answer enough questions correctly, they cure the Sperminator of his STI and he rejoins the Sex Squad.

Contraception: The Board Game

Moving around a board using condom- and pill-packet-shaped pieces, kids discuss and learn sexual health and contraception when playing Contraception Education Ltd.’s “Contraception: The Board Game.” Recommended for ages 11 and up, the game features contraception- and sex-related questions and scenarios. Players roll dice to advance their pieces around the board and try collecting information from six outlets offering sexual health and contraception advice: accident/emergency units, condom machines, family planning clinics, general practitioners, pharmacies and youth sexual health organizations. Kids also may engage in “Contraception: the Computer Game” on CD, which lets one or two players participate in safer sex discussions, or lets larger groups use LCD projections or interactive whiteboards to play the games.

The Sex Ed Game

Kids try filling every piece of their “pie” in Iser Games’ “The Sex Ed Game,” available as a free trial download at the CNet site. After choosing the number of players, kids click on one of four possible answers for each question; correct answers earn players points and pieces to their “Trivial Pursuit”-looking pie, while incorrect answers cost players points. The game ends when each piece of a player’s “pie” fills in.

The Sex Game

Players slither toward letters and avoid making contact with baddies in “The Sex Game,” accessible at the Avert AIDS international charity site. Sex-related statements appear on the screen with a missing word. Players use their mouse to move the pink snake toward the letters that make up the missing word, earning more points for grabbing the letters in the correct order. As players progress through levels, the snake’s tail grows longer. If players get too close to the black-circled baddies, the baddies attack and cost players’ lives. Should the baddies guard any letters, players should make the baddies chase them. The game ends when players lose all five of their lives.